Hello everyone, as you guys probably know, yesterday was Mother’s Day, the day we celebrate the wonderful women who raised us. You either celebrate your birth mother, your adopted mother, grandmother, stepmother, foster mother, or even just the women who helped raise you even though they may not be related.
With this in mind, I would like to use this blog post to answer a question some people have asked. Why do the main characters in my stories usually don’t have a mother, or not a positive mother?
That is a little difficult to explain, for every writer we each have something that we find difficult to write, or we prefer to do things certain ways that others may find strange. For me, I do have a reason for why a positive mother figure is not present. My main reason is pretty personal, so I will keep that to myself, but I do have another reason. I want to show everyone that you don’t need to be related or exactly the person’s birth parent to be a parent.
In Death’s Assistant, Alba had her grandmother and when she passed away, she had Panther in Midnight (who wasn’t really positive, but gave her the skills necessary for her to survive). In Silver Dove, neither of the main characters have a living mother, but that does not mean that they do not have a motherly figure. Colomba has her grandmother, while Luis has Shadow to watch over him. Although these characters may not be mothers, or even related in some cases, they still helped raise these children.
That is what I want everyone to realize, it does not matter whose child they are, we all must help young people become the best they can be. I currently work as a therapist in a juvenile detention program. I am there to help these boys through a dark time in their life and I have to do some of the stereotypically mother roles; sometimes I need to scold them, comfort them, and believe in them so that they can become their best selves. Every child deserves this so that they can be an amazing adult.
With that in mind, I hope that everyone had a wonderful Mother’s Day and were able to thank the women who helped raise them.